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    Truly did Allah fulfil the vision for His Messenger. ye shall enter the Sacred Mosque, if Allah wills, with minds secure, heads shaved, hair cut short, and without fear. For He knew what ye knew not, and He granted, besides this, a speedy victory.(48:27)


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    I just did...
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    Truly did Allah fulfil the vision for His Messenger. ye shall enter the Sacred Mosque, if Allah wills, with minds secure, heads shaved, hair cut short, and without fear. For He knew what ye knew not, and He granted, besides this, a speedy victory.(48:27)


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    I've spent a good portion of the past 15 years crying. Every time I thought I could face the world, something has happened to pull me back down... and it's always been hard to get up again. I do smile every and now and then, but it doesn't feel natural to me. I feel awkward smiling. In fact, I look weird smiling. I look sad / depressed / angry whatever.

    Smiling with the lips is only part of the story. How does one make the heart smile? My heart feels so ... down trodden and lifeless. Every time I think about my heart I feel like crying... even right now...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Clarity View Post
    I've spent a good portion of the past 15 years crying. Every time I thought I could face the world, something has happened to pull me back down... and it's always been hard to get up again. I do smile every and now and then, but it doesn't feel natural to me. I feel awkward smiling. In fact, I look weird smiling. I look sad / depressed / angry whatever.

    Smiling with the lips is only part of the story. How does one make the heart smile? My heart feels so ... down trodden and lifeless. Every time I think about my heart I feel like crying... even right now...
    Salaam

    I am extremely sad on reading this post. May God fill your life with genuine and true happiness. I take your point there is a momentary smile that comes from movement of lips and then there is a genuine happiness, peace, satisfaction, which comes from our heart. That is more lasting. For some this requires fulfillment of lots of desires and goals. Albeit for a true believer it is brought by faith and deeds. I cannot comment on what specific circumstances have made you be unhappy. I hope and wish that the present and future is bright and Sunny.

    Those who live in caves and say the Sun does not shine are wrong. The Sun only shines for those who have the ability to come out of darkness and enjoy its warmth. Amin Islahi.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Clarity View Post
    I've spent a good portion of the past 15 years crying. Every time I thought I could face the world, something has happened to pull me back down... and it's always been hard to get up again. I do smile every and now and then, but it doesn't feel natural to me. I feel awkward smiling. In fact, I look weird smiling. I look sad / depressed / angry whatever.

    Smiling with the lips is only part of the story. How does one make the heart smile? My heart feels so ... down trodden and lifeless. Every time I think about my heart I feel like crying... even right now...
    Why do you feel so sorry for yourself,what has been so bad that you have no life in you?
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    Quote Originally Posted by DocW
    I am extremely sad on reading this post. May God fill your life with genuine and true happiness. I take your point there is a momentary smile that comes from movement of lips and then there is a genuine happiness, peace, satisfaction, which comes from our heart. That is more lasting. For some this requires fulfillment of lots of desires and goals. Albeit for a true believer it is brought by faith and deeds. I cannot comment on what specific circumstances have made you be unhappy. I hope and wish that the present and future is bright and Sunny.
    Amin, jazak Allah khayr.

    Alan ~ um, it's a bit difficult to explain in a couple of words. But, if someone could help me on how to liven up my broken spirit... that would be an enormous help. I've been vision impaired since birth, which has constantly fluctuated, and then partly restored with surgery... for the past 6 years it was the worst and I was virtually completely blind. But alhamdulillah 3 weeks ago I had an operation which the doctors weren't giving me much hope about... and it has restored some sight back. I thought that once i get some of my sight back, life will change... and it has in some respects... but not the dramatic change I was hoping for. I thougbht I'd be flying over the moon. But the many years of crap (not just about my sight but other things) seems to run deeper. Anyway, sorry for the negative vibe.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Clarity View Post
    Amin, jazak Allah khayr.

    Alan ~ um, it's a bit difficult to explain in a couple of words. But, if someone could help me on how to liven up my broken spirit... that would be an enormous help. I've been vision impaired since birth, which has constantly fluctuated, and then partly restored with surgery... for the past 6 years it was the worst and I was virtually completely blind. But alhamdulillah 3 weeks ago I had an operation which the doctors weren't giving me much hope about... and it has restored some sight back. I thought that once i get some of my sight back, life will change... and it has in some respects... but not the dramatic change I was hoping for. I thougbht I'd be flying over the moon. But the many years of crap (not just about my sight but other things) seems to run deeper. Anyway, sorry for the negative vibe.
    You say the doctors wernt giving you much hope,but you got some sight back.Where did your ideas of dramatic change come from?What made you believe in dramatic change when the doctors didnt?
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    Amin, jazak Allah khayr.

    Alan ~ um, it's a bit difficult to explain in a couple of words. But, if someone could help me on how to liven up my broken spirit... that would be an enormous help. I've been vision impaired since birth, which has constantly fluctuated, and then partly restored with surgery... for the past 6 years it was the worst and I was virtually completely blind. But alhamdulillah 3 weeks ago I had an operation which the doctors weren't giving me much hope about... and it has restored some sight back. I thought that once i get some of my sight back, life will change... and it has in some respects... but not the dramatic change I was hoping for. I thougbht I'd be flying over the moon. But the many years of crap (not just about my sight but other things) seems to run deeper. Anyway, sorry for the negative vibe.
    Salaam Clarity I am very happy that you have got some sight back. I remember when you had posted before the operation and you were facing the prospect of total blindness and how depressed u were. Alhamdulillah it's nice that what you were fearing did not happen.
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    Salaam Clarity

    As a Muslim our belief is that everything happens from Allah with His Wisdom and Mercy. The bigger scheme may not be immediately discernable. It is possible in coping with the visual impairment may lie your path to Paradise. The Quran states in Baqrah that Allah does not put a burden on anyone beyond their capacity. Or else this test would not be fair. Outwardly, it seems a very hard and tough test. However , it remains my firm belief that if you come through this test with steadfastness and patience, the rewards will be equally richer. The future is bright the future is orange..... so I ask again Have you smiled TODAY... Keep smiling!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alan
    You say the doctors wernt giving you much hope,but you got some sight back.Where did your ideas of dramatic change come from?What made you believe in dramatic change when the doctors didnt?
    Ok well, by dramatic, I was not referring to amount of sight. Rather, dramatic change in my life. There were 3 possible outcomes: Either I could get some sight back, 2, things would stay relatively the same or go back to same within couple of weeks or months, and 3, I could lose everything permanently. Permanent is the key word here as what I had before was also blindness but there was still that element of 'we can still do something about it'. Anyway, I felt that, whether I got some sight back (which would be awesome and IS awesome), or I lost my sight completely, it would be the bolster I needed in my life. I just wanted something dramatic to happen -- whether it was this operation or something else... to help me even just to begin to snap out of this 'mode' I find myself in.

    I am not sure if the above made sense.... the point is, the doctors suggested I hold onto the idea of going for surgery til I felt I could no longer cope properly anymore... that, if life was going smoothly, then no point to disrupt that. Obviously, things weren't going well.... I felt, if i became permanently blind then I probably wouldnt feel as though I've lost much.... but if I gain some vision, then that would just be freedom....and it has been freedom. I am able to walk around independently in the supermarket, not worrying about smashing into things and people... i can follow people if i have to, not constantly asking where are you, where are you... i can see myself in the mirror, i can see other peoples facial expressions etc... albeit not 100% clearly, but enough to help me recognise them. I can read newspaper headlines... I can watch movies.... it's just... like a big knot has been untied out of my chest, alhamdulillah.

    But the years of sadness, depression or whatever you want to call it has taken its hold on me. Obviously my life or identity doesn't just revolve around the state of my eye. Nearly every day of my life i get scolded, and i've been severely hurt by others, verbal abuse, threats and the like. Then a lousy string of failures related to my study and career goals... It's just been a recycled nightmare over n over... every time you try to pickup the pieces, say i'm okay, it's not so bad etc... but then before not long, something else happens to drag you down...

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    Thanks bro. I am surprised you still remember my post about it. Alhamdulillah.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DocW
    As a Muslim our belief is that everything happens from Allah with His Wisdom and Mercy. The bigger scheme may not be immediately discernable. It is possible in coping with the visual impairment may lie your path to Paradise. The Quran states in Baqrah that Allah does not put a burden on anyone beyond their capacity. Or else this test would not be fair.
    Salams DocW,

    I sometimes struggle with that um, what would you call it, 'philosophy'.
    For some the path to Paradise is merely a matter of jumping a few hoops and for others, the path to Paradise involves fighting dragons and demons. Sure, maybe the latter might have higher status in Paradise eventually... but ultimately both will get to Paradise. And who knows, the path with the greater trials might just make the person snap into disbelief.



    How can it be a case of 'not burdening someone more than what they can bear' when that burden can sometimes lead to disbelief? Today I heard of a lady whose husband, father and 24 year old son all died within one month one after another. When she was mourning for one of them, another one went. I mean, it is a big thing to deal even with one death, let alone 3. People go nutty over one death and mourn for a long time... is it any surprise then this lady went a bit more crazy? Sure, eventually she may or may not 'turn back to normal'... i doubt it though... life will never be same for her. The enormity of the grief will have impacted on her sensibilities... she'd probably turn into this depressed, mournful, maybe even spiteful person. How can she smile and dance and be all gooey about the wonders of the universe when the universe inside her heart has been stripped almost bear?

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    "like a big knot has been untied out of my chest, alhamdulillah.

    But the years of sadness, depression or whatever you want to call it has taken its hold on me. Obviously my life or identity doesn't just revolve around the state of my eye. Nearly every day of my life i get scolded, and i've been severely hurt by others, verbal abuse, threats and the like. Then a lousy string of failures related to my study and career goals... It's just been a recycled nightmare over n over... every time you try to pickup the pieces, say i'm okay, it's not so bad etc... but then before not long, something else happens to drag you down... "


    Sounds like a big relief,a knot out of your chest.
    Forgive me seeking "clarity",but who is scolding you everyday?I assume you mean,the vision issues have effected your study and career goals?
    Sounds like you are exhausted,()what about taking a break from your goals and focus on things you enjoy for a while.If you have been fatigued by years of stress,you need to learn how to relax,to untie more knots.
    Dont be hard on yourself,you have been through alot of trials,you need to be kind to yourself.
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    Salams DocW,

    I sometimes struggle with that um, what would you call it, 'philosophy'.
    For some the path to Paradise is merely a matter of jumping a few hoops and for others, the path to Paradise involves fighting dragons and demons. Sure, maybe the latter might have higher status in Paradise eventually... but ultimately both will get to Paradise. And who knows, the path with the greater trials might just make the person snap into disbelief.



    How can it be a case of 'not burdening someone more than what they can bear' when that burden can sometimes lead to disbelief? Today I heard of a lady whose husband, father and 24 year old son all died within one month one after another. When she was mourning for one of them, another one went. I mean, it is a big thing to deal even with one death, let alone 3. People go nutty over one death and mourn for a long time... is it any surprise then this lady went a bit more crazy? Sure, eventually she may or may not 'turn back to normal'... i doubt it though... life will never be same for her. The enormity of the grief will have impacted on her sensibilities... she'd probably turn into this depressed, mournful, maybe even spiteful person. How can she smile and dance and be all gooey about the wonders of the universe when the universe inside her heart has been stripped almost bear?
    Salaam Clarity

    The issue of self and accountability revolves around atest that is not beyond someone's capabilities. If I am given a burden betond my ability and then sent to Hell for being a failure, then how can we say justice was done?

    A teacher has a class with students of different abilities. The teacher sets exam paper according to the individual ability of pupils. Those who will do the hard paper will have rewards equal to their efforts. Paradise does not ahve one level but different levels and people with different levels of goodness will go in different Paradises. The ahrdships are also a means of washing our sins. This life is of 60-70 years and will pass. There is an everlasting life to come when this life according to Quran would seem may be a day or two. The galss is half full not half empty. Future is bright future is orange

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    Salam DocW,

    If a person becomes disillusioned, acquires a mental impairment, loses faith, suicides, are these not signs that the burden was perhaps more than what they could bear? Or should we just conclude that such people simply 'gave up' too easy?

    The future isn't always bright orange. Sometimes things just linger on til the very end. The pain and suffering doesn't lessen... you just learn to cope with it.

    As for your example about the student who answers harder questions gets a higher place in Paradise... Well, personally, I think *any place* in paradise would be good enough at the moment.

    Anyway, let me play with that example a little bit.

    In school, my strengths lay in the humanities, and so it was my choice to pick all the humanities subjects in my final year. I did pretty well. Had I chosen mathematics then I might not have done so well, even though the ranking for students who did specialist maths was higher. And as they say, if you don't enjoy the work you are doing, you will not perform well at it either. My point is, doing the harder questions doesn't always equate to greater success. It could be what brings your grade down too. It might be so tough that you end up just wanting to drop out of school altogether...

    I made some bad choices, and now here I am moping - wasting time, not where I want to be not where I should be. Others I know have taken the easier route, managed to avoid getting tangled in the mess I did, and they are happier now. E.g. my cousins all got married young - have kids, have their own home, their on independence, lovely children etc. They don't work, but who cares, it doesn't restrict them from buying anything they want. I went down the higher education path, i'm jobless, loveless, childless, living with parents who still treat me like a child...

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